Ian Graham

I was thinking of you for days, not realizing that you were literally connecting with me in Spirit as you were departing this life. But while I was shocked to learn of your passing I also felt so much love for you and gratitude for our decades of great friendship and joy.
You have been a very special friend to Peter and me - your guidance and support were always there for us when we needed it the most.
Now you are reunited with all your loved ones who’ve passed over - my beloved Peter being one of them. What a joyous celebration of your life you must all be having 🤗
You live on in our hearts 💞 and my life is so much richer because our paths crossed all those years ago
Eugenie 

Dearest Brother Ian
I was thinking of you for days, not realizing that you were literally connecting with me in Spirit as you were departing this life. But while I was shocked to learn of your passing I also felt so much love for you and gratitude for our decades of great friendship and joy.
You have been a very special friend to Peter and me - your guidance and support were always there for us when we needed it the most.
Now you are reunited with all your loved ones who’ve passed over - my beloved Peter being one of them. What a joyous celebration of your life you must all be having 🤗
You live on in our hearts 💞 and my life is so much richer because our paths crossed all those years ago
Eugenie 

Heaven has gained a beautiful shining star 🌟. Thank you for everything you have meant to me and my beloved ones. Precious memories will always be in my heart of our unforgettable journeys to Bhutan and Scotland last year and the lunches and conversations we had in Zutphen and surroundings! See you in heaven dearest Ian, forever in my heart ❤️🌟✨💫 

Fly high dear Ian..
in peace
to the Light
Purnima 

Lieve Ian,
Opeens verschijnt dan dat niet te bevatten bericht op mijn tijdlijn dat je bent overgegaan. Op je zo geliefde eiland Patmos, een toepasselijker plek was natuurlijk niet mogelijk. Ik heb er dan ook alle vertrouwen in dat het GOED is zo. En toch...

Ik heb heel veel gehad aan de 3 sessies die jij met een hart vol Liefde voor Rob en mij wilde faciliteren, een jaar of 10 geleden alweer. Dat was de eerste keer dat ik zo intens kennismaakte met die zó zuivere energie van de andere kant, belichaamd door jou, lieve Ian. En toen wij vlak bij Zutphen kwamen wonen, was het een genot om je te mogen ontvangen bij ons thuis, als een vriend, en om te weten dat we "altijd even" konden bellen, afspreken, nog een keertje met je mee naar Bhutan (daar verheugden we ons enorm op!), ...

"Altijd" is nu "nooit meer" geworden, althans: niet in dit leven. Jouw taak hier zit er blijkbaar nu op, jij mocht al terug naar Huis. Maar een deel van jouw energie is voor altijd bij me - we zijn tenslotte sowieso Eén.

Ik wens je een mooie reis daar aan de andere kant, met heel veel Licht, Liefde en ... gewoon Zijn, zoals White Bull altijd al aanraadde. Heel veel liefs van mij; ik ben heel dankbaar dat ik je als mens gekend heb. 

We remember your loving kindness as a gentle breeze.
For every grateful for your pointers to the hugs possibilities for transformation when create from oneness.
Love Annette and Jean-Paul

A poem of 11 words for our friend Ian

YOU
Deep laughter
Man of Service
Knew darkness lived for
Light 

Dearest Ian,

What an unexpected loss. I don't even know where to begin to express how much I valued you as a being. How much lighter, wiser, and better I felt after our conversations. Of course the love and wisdom of WhiteBull was profound and so true, which resonated deeply. But I enjoyed the chat's with you about love, life, dreams and filmmaking.

I will miss you! But know that you are around in different form. May our paths cross again my beloved friend. 

Dearest Brother Ian
I was thinking of you for days, not realizing that you were literally connecting with me in Spirit as you were departing this life. But while I was shocked to learn of your passing I also felt so much love for you and gratitude for our decades of great friendship and joy.
You have been a very special friend to Peter and me - your guidance and support were always there for us when we needed it the most.
Now you are reunited with all your loved ones who’ve passed over - my beloved Peter being one of them. What a joyous celebration of your life you must all be having 🤗
You live on in our hearts 💞 and my life is so much richer because our paths crossed all those years ago
Eugenie 

Dear Ian,
You helped me incredible by giving me guidance and trust that we were at the right path in treating our daughter ourself from her, according to the standard medical care, uncurable heart disease.
We still listen back the recordings once in while and they are still valid and very correct. This still have an incredible contribution the life of my family and in transforming our complete belief system.

Even when you were retired, you told us we could always ask you for help. People like you, with such a good heart are hard to find nowadays. I had promised and hoped/ deeply trusted to open a bottle of Champaign together and drink it on the good outcome for my daughter. We will do now at a later moment together with Magdelena. Thank you so much for your help. I will never forget you. Mark, Claudia and Isis 

Dear Ian, miss you very much, and you remain in my heart, Tonny van der Ham 

Dear Ian,
We met only twice in this life, short time ago. And already at the start if my 1st session I felt the light if God shining in your room.A force I never felt in any church. I am very grateful to have met you alive. I asked whether I could join you on your retreat to Patmos in 2026, but your last trip is over.
We also had an extra bond through both our connections to Bhutan and Kalimpong where We both traveled extensively. Where in Bhutan in former days you could feel how heaven and earth were closer together than anywhere else. And We both had our worries about the current developments there.
I wish you a splendid travel in the afterlive.
I am very grateful that I met you.
annechien 

Beste Ian,

Je was voor mij één van de beste raadgevers en één die mijn leven in de goede richting heeft gestuurd. Ik hoop dat jouw geode vriend White Bull je verder mee opneemt in het grote witte licht.
Je was een zeer beminnelijke man en ik neem jou en White Bull mee in mijn hart als mijn raadgever.
Het ga je goed, Ian, tot ziens!! 

Dear friend,

I’ve realized that I didn’t love you with my eyes.

I loved you with my heart and soul; and maybe, just maybe,
there’s no such thing as separation.

Thank you for everything,thank you for being you wise man,big soul!

Rest in peace beautiful soul 🖤🙏🏾 

The more I reflect on it, the more I feel that Ian and White Bull are more present with us than ever through the air we breathe and through their loving presence that brings us peace. It feels like they never left. They were here before, they are here now and they will always be. And that one thought gives me goosebumps in awe of the Mystery of Life, and in awe of the one power that we all serve, Love. And as I write this, my heart fills up with deep gratitude that bursts into tears for I am humbled by Grace that brought us all together in the most sacred act of loving one another, as they love us now. 

Dear friend

Thank you for your kindness, your honesty and your presence

I cherish every moment we had before sessions where we get to speak and laugh about our life experiences

You dedicated your life and yourself to help others and for that I’m forever thankful

I’m sure you found your peace and you’re now reunited with your long time friend White Bull

Know that you will be missed

Until we meet again 

Dear Ian,

I'm sure many of your friends resonate deeply with that which your beloved John the Evangelist wrote: "The Light shone in the darkness, but the darkness did not understand it."

So, too, when you joined the world in your early years
you found a darkness of a class society upheld by duty
and in those strict conventions steeped in fears
your soul shone a light, sensitive and of great beauty.

The bar set high by the rich tradition of your family,
it sometimes seemed as if you'd always felt some shame
for not conforming, not being boyish rough-and-tumbily
an exuberant spirit, squished into a stuffy, rigid frame.

As much as they could not see you then,
in my heart there's not a single doubt
that if your forebears would see today how loved you are,
how many lives you've touched,
they could not be anything but proud.

Like a thread throughout your life, ran your grandfather John
the modern apostle of love, as he was called.
He would be the one you took your inspiration from,
by his travels and spirit of service enthralled.

It naturally followed that, just like him,
you would travel the world extensively.
Bhutan, Kanchenjunga, Ireland, Patmos, and
swimming with dolphins in the Egyptian Red Sea.

You loved the theatre, a thespian in your own right
even performing Shakespeare, I forget which part or play,
and although life would lead you elsewhere
still you'd always have a soft spot for ballet.

Tennis, too, of course, Roger Federer most of all
"A great man on and off the court," is what you said.
So chuffed with your signed Eurosport-cap
it henceforth adorned your Buddha-statue's head.

Yes, humour you had plenty, whether it was Stanley Baxter,
Golden Girls or even at your own expense
your capacity for joy, as well as sadness,
was really quite immense.

You more than had your share of lows and blues
dark moods that came to fill your heart with sorrow
yet like a true hero you journeyed through the darkest night
until from deep within it, dawned the light of morrow.

A Scottish gentleman through and through
your nights filled with radio BBC
eloquent and the most generous host
adamant about the right way to make tea
and ever a graceful presence
amongst both commoners and royalty.

Yet it was in Zutphen that you and Roly had your home.
The only thing you lamented would be the Dutch cuisine
but then, you loved good food and cooking to the extent that allowing anyone into your kitchen, would remain to be seen.

Your work proved to be a double edged sword
on the one hand cutting your daily bread
but on the other it all too often seemed
to cut a little into you instead.

As though you had to live life in your own shadow
and yet I'm sure there's not a person who
once they got acquainted with the real Ian
wouldn't have loved you for you.

Your life unfolded, as you often said,
through a certain magic and Grace
with laptops, money and people appearing
at ever the right timing and place.

In our lives there now remains a void,
as this part of our joined physical journey ends,
for your family, for those whom relied on your support,
and for those privileged to be your friends.

Of all these words, dearest Ian, really here's the gist:
You are loved, so much, and will be sorely missed.


It seems to be a custom at times like these
to wish each other strength
but I find myself not wanting to be strong

Rather I want to cry, wail, weep, and feel
I want to remember you, be grateful, laugh and heal

So, to use John the Evangelist's words once more
let us love one another – even more so than before

For it is in Love that we reveal our Unity
that we find our Oneness as a Divine Spark
and that's where we will always find you, Ian,
and join you, shining Light into the dark.

With much Love and gratitude 

Welkom thuis Ian.

Dank voor de fijne gesprekken, je wijsheid, je prachtige Bhutan verhalen, een heerlijke Patmos week ooit.
Dat je moge zijn in Vrede.

Frans 

Dear Ian,

Thank you for all the light and trust you brought to many. Together with White Bull you offered comfort and perspective, inspiration and inner peace.

I wish you all the best, wherever you are and choose to go.

I wish all friends and family strength and a gentle processing of the loss.

All love, Annemieke 

Dear Ian,
Thank you for your empaty, your loving heart, your wisdom, light and messenger of the coaching and always loving, wise worths and energy of White Bull.
Never forget your humility for the greater good.
Wish you a save yourney home.

With love 

Dearest Ian
I celebrate your presence in my life,
Your unwavering love and support.
Your compassionate and generous heart.
Your wisdom and kindness.
Your ability to love deeply.
Your dedication to your Calling and life of service.
I know that you and White Bull touched countless lives.
So many of us are deeply changed and transformed by your and White Bull's loving Wisdom and wise Love.
I get very still when I reflect upon it.
It is not the end.
Just a new beginning.